Parenting Seminars

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Parenting is not an indifferent matter in the Bible, but of great importance. Many believing parents want their children to become Christians, but are often unsure how to proceed.

Ultimately, parenting is not a matter of techniques or practices, but a set of priorities and values. Godly parenting is the mission to raise up our children to know the love of God in Christ. That’s the main thing. Everything else – academics, sports, music, friendships – are good things, but not the ultimate thing. Knowing what is the ultimate thing structures the limited time and energy we all have as parents. So that teaching faith in Christ becomes the non-negotiable thing in the family.

Some people wonder: aren’t there no guarantees our children will become Christians? And, of course, that’s true. God is sovereign. We are not. We cannot control the hearts of our children. But exceptions to the rule do not make the ordinary means of the Bible’s pattern of generational faith meaningless. Proverbs 22:6 says “train up a child in the way he should go, and even when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Or consider 2 Timothy 1:5 and the example of Timothy learning the faith from his mother Eunice and his grandmother Lois. Also, sociologists have identified something called the “4-14 Window,” which is this crucial window of teachability and tenderness of heart when children are between the ages of 4 and 14 years old. 63% of adult Christians came to faith during that age range.

Finally, some concluding remarks:

(1) If you look at Ephesians 6:4, parenting is addressed to “fathers.” This does not reflect a kind of reflective sexism of the ancient world, but the Bible’s instruction that fathers have the primary and lead responsibility in parenting. This is radically counter-cultural in a world where fathers are providers and mothers do the parenting.

(2) The church is a partner, not a replacement for parents. Many parents assume, “isn’t it the church’s job to instruct our children in the Christian faith?” But an hour a week is impossible to do this task well. Think about any serious endeavor – playing the piano or taking martial arts lessons. If a child only receives a single hour of instruction per week without any reinforcement at home, that child will never achieve deep mastery of that skill. Christianity is infinitely more deep and complex than the piano or martial arts. Deuteronomy 6:7 says that teaching our children faith is a whole life endeavor, involving every part of life.

(3) Finally, a word of grace to parents. Many parents feel beleaguered and overwhelmed. This is not by accident. Parenting is an enormous task, far greater than running a company or governing a nation, because raising up a human being is vastly more involving and complex. So all parents will experience significant mistakes, failures, and short-comings. Indeed God designed it this way. So that through parenting, we can experience more deeply his grace and forgiveness. And this approach will make us better parents. No child wants to be parented by a “perfect parent” who never makes mistakes. That is a crushing burden. Godly parents should be quick to apologize, and model for our children humility and a life-long pattern of repentance.

In the end, parenting is gospel-reenactment. We must always parent our children remember that in Christ, we are all sons of God loved and disciplined by our Heavenly Father. This is the strength we can draw from in our moments of despair and discouragement.

Above photo: the parent panel from the first class

Reflections on our vision in 2019

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"Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will make you fishers of men." – Mark 1:17

As we approach 2019, I want to reflect on the vision of our church that we laid out in the summer of 2018. This was the fruit of many months of discussions with the elders and lay leaders of the church. Remember, IGC only became particularized (electing and installing elders) in March of 2018. The first goal of the Session was to set forth a guiding vision for our church.

The vision of our church is "following Jesus and helping others to follow Jesus." There are two parts to our vision, and the key is that you cannot do one without the other.

First, the Christian life is to follow Jesus. This means to leave behind our old life of sin and idolatry, and to start a new life of love and obedience. This is a radical call that demands our whole life.

Second, the Christian life is helping others to follow Jesus. And here is the key. You cannot follow Jesus without helping others to follow Jesus. These are inseparable pursuits. In other words, Christianity is not a solo endeavor, but can only be done in deep community with others. We do this through evangelism in the world and discipleship in the church. In this way, the whole church is involved in the work of ministry.

What does this look like practically in our church? Many people have asked what new program or what specific ministry will this involve. The answer is that our vision is less about starting new programs, and more about creating a new culture. It’s about everyone leaning into the church and pouring themselves out for others. And it will look different for different people. For some, it means joining an intensive discipleship group. For others, it means serving in Children/Youth Ministry and mentoring young hearts to follow Christ. And for others, it means finding the courage to share Christ with a co-worker.

Here is one practical suggestion to start. In your relationships in the church, be more intentional in your conversations. Ask someone about their walk with God. Take someone out to coffee to talk about spiritual things. Invite a family over for dinner and share prayer requests. Talk to your children about the Christian faith.

This will be a long conversation in our church. We do not expect to arrive at our destination in a few short years. There will be many steps along the journey. At our upcoming January leadership dinner, there will be a discussion about how the vision intersects with community groups. In February or March, there will be a congregational meeting. And all the time, the elders are continuing to meet with ministry leaders to flesh out the vision. And lastly, we invite you to join us this Sunday morning, 10:10am at the library, to pray about the vision for our church in 2019.

Photo caption, from top to bottom: A baptism, Particularization service, Missions conference with MTW, Children's Ministry class, Mercy Ministry event in Oakland, Men's Retreat, Women's Retreat, and Youth Ministry mini-golf.

Good Friday Reflection

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During the Christmas season, we hear the following words:

No more let sins and sorrows grow,
Nor thorns infest the ground;
He comes to make His blessings flow
Far as the curse is found…

In the Bible, thorns are more than a nuisance to gardeners and farmers. They represent the curse that the entire world was placed under after the fall of man in the Garden of Eden. Because we don’t live in an agrarian society, we don’t give much thought to thorns. But anyone who works in agriculture will tell you how difficult thorns make their lives. They injure. They choke out life. They mar beauty. Thorns remind us that this world is cursed with disease and selfishness and sorrow. But we don’t need thorns to remind us of these things. Every moment of pain and sadness in our lives testify to the curse the world is under.

As Jesus made his way to the cross, soldiers placed a crown of thorns on his head. They didn’t know it, but in doing so they placed the very curse of God on the Messiah’s head.

by Pastor Wade

Particularization Service

On March 11, 2018, after nearly 8 years, Indelible Grace Church was a church plant no longer, and having ordained and installed ruling elders, became a fully established and self-governing church. In PCA lingo, this is called "particularization." Jeff Murry, David Yi and Sammy Zheng were ordained and installed as ruling elders. They took solemn vows in the discharge of their duties, and there was the laying on of hands and prayer. The congregation also make solemn vows of obedience and faithfulness, as we became an organized church. And finally, Pastor Michael was installed as pastor. Elders and pastors from neighboring PCA churches participated in the service.

Part III: Other Distinctives of Being Presbyterian

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In the last post, I talked about the main distinctive of Presbyterianism--its form of church government. This post will fill out the other distinctives of the Presbyterian tradition.

(1) Covenant Theology and Infant Baptism
Covenant Theology sees fundamental continuity between the Old and the New Testaments, as opposed to Dispensationalism which sees discontinuity. It’s a way of reading Scripture, so that Genesis through Revelation is a single narrative arc: God rescuing his people in Christ. Closely related to Covenant Theology is the practice of Infant Baptism. Presbyterians baptize the children of believers for the same reason Israelites circumcised their children. There is a fundamental continuity between the covenants.

(2) Confessionalism
How do we determine between true and false doctrine? Rather than each individual believer determining for themselves what Scripture teaches, we listen to what Christians have historically believed throughout the centuries. These classic doctrines are preserved for us in the historic creeds and confessions of the church. This is called Confessionalism. The confessional documents of the PCA are the Westminster Confession of Faith and Larger and Shorter Catechisms. We also subscribe to the Apostles’ and Nicene Creeds from the ancient church.

(3) Doctrine of Predestination
Predestination teaches that God is the author of our salvation. As Jesus said in John 6:44 – “no one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him.”

There are other minor distinctives, but these are the big four: Ecclesiology, Covenant Theology, Confessionalism and Reformed Soteriology.

Finally, it’s important to emphasize that one doesn’t need to agree with all the tenets of Presbyterianism to be part of Indelible Grace Church. In fact, most IGC members are not necessarily Presbyterian by conviction. What unites us as a church community is the gospel of Christ. If you believe in Jesus as savior, you are welcomed to be a member of IGC. I hope this three-part series has been informative and encouraging.

Part II: What is Presbyterianism?

In the last blog post, I wrote about why we are in a denomination. Today, I want to talk about the main distinctive of being our specific denomination--Presbyterian. Every denomination has a historic reason for existing, namely, why it broke off from the larger established church. For example, Baptists objected to infant baptism, thus their name. Presbyterians objected to the authoritarianism of the Church of England, believing that church power rightly belongs with ordained elders, not the king or a solitary archbishop. "Presbyter" is the Greek word for elder.

Presbyterians saw in the New Testament plentiful evidence that Christ entrusted the care of his church to elders. Elders are called "overseers" and "manage" the household of God (1 Timothy 3:1-5). And church members are called to "obey" and "submit" to elders (1 Peter 5:1-5, Hebrews 13:17). Elders are wise, godly shepherds who are tasked to love the congregation and even lay down their lives for the church. In the PCA, a gathering of local church elders is called a "session."

Presbyterians also see in the New Testament that elders from various churches meet together as a council to discuss and deliberate on matters pertaining to all churches. The PCA calls this regional gathering of elders a "presbytery." The biblical model for this is the Council of Jerusalem in Acts 15, which decided the matter of circumcision for all churches.

So the "session" and "presbytery" is the main distinctive of being Presbyterian. Our church is to be ruled by a session of godly elders. And over the session is a presbytery of regional elders.

Picture: Assembly of Westminster Divines drafting the founding document of Presbyterianism, The Westminster Confession of Faith, in 1646, during the height of the English Reformation.

Part I: Why a denomination?

Our church is part of the PCA (Presbyterian Church in America). But not everyone is familiar with this denomination. So we are going to do a three-part series explaining and introducing the PCA through these blog posts. The hope is that this will be informative and encouraging to you!

First, let's address the larger issue of denominationalism. Why are we in a denomination at all? Why not be a non-denominational church? And aren’t denominations contrary to the spirit of unity?

Our response is that denominations are a healthy way to be connected to a church heritage. We do not “do church” ex nihilo, out of nothing. But rather, everyone is influenced by a particular church heritage – a certain way of practicing church leadership, baptism, orthodoxy, community life. In other words, everyone is doing church within a tradition. The only question is whether we will be self-conscious of it.

Being part of a denomination acknowledges our heritage and gives us a self-awareness of the flaws and weaknesses of our heritage. For example, Presbyterians are strong on theology, but a big weakness is that we are a very cerebral, heady tradition, and rather weak on “doing” the gospel. Historically, Presbyterians are great at writing theology textbooks and founding seminaries, but not very good at frontier evangelism and community engagement.

Being Presbyterian doesn’t mean we arrogantly look down on other denominations. Rather, it means we humbly acknowledge the weaknesses of our own tradition and respectfully listen to the strengths of other traditions.

2014 Year-in-Review

Our year in photos:

January – Two new community groups have began this year

January – Two new community groups have began this year

February – Serving our neighbors at Marshall Elementary School

February – Serving our neighbors at Marshall Elementary School

March – Third "Skeptics Night" held at Bodi’s Java

March – Third "Skeptics Night" held at Bodi’s Java

July – Church picnic at San Felipe Park

July – Church picnic at San Felipe Park

July – Five church members went to Haiti through Mission of Hope

July – Five church members went to Haiti through Mission of Hope

August – Thinking about suffering in Job at our annual retreat

August – Thinking about suffering in Job at our annual retreat

September – 22 women gathered for the Women’s Mentorship kickoff

September – 22 women gathered for the Women’s Mentorship kickoff

October – The men of IGC spending time together at Castro Village Bowl

October – The men of IGC spending time together at Castro Village Bowl

November – Packing shoeboxes for Operation Christmas Child

November – Packing shoeboxes for Operation Christmas Child

December – IGC Christmas Party held at the Castro Valley Community Center

December – IGC Christmas Party held at the Castro Valley Community Center

The Heart Key

"If I found a key on the road, and discovered it fit and opened a particular lock at my house, I would assume most likely that the key was made by the lock maker. And if I find set of teachings set out in pre-modern oriental society that has proven itself of such universal validity that it has fascinated and satisfied millions of people in every century, including the best minds in history and the simplest hearts, that it has made itself at home in virtually every culture, inspired masterpieces of beauty in every field of art, continues to grow rapidly and spread and assert itself in lands where a century ago the name of Jesus Christ was not even heard; if such teaching so obviously fits the locks of so many human souls, in so many times and so many places, are they likely to be the work of a deceiver or a fool? In fact it is more likely that they were designed by the Heart Maker." -- G.K. Chesterton

Summer-in-Review 2013

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Photo Caption:
Top left: Women's Fellowship Tea Party
Top middle: BBQ Picnic at Valley View Park
Top right: Mercy Ministry at Emergency Shelter Program
Middle left: Men's Fellowship Hike
Middle: Your typical summer day at IGC
Middle right: Women's Summer Retreat
Bottom left: Men's Summer Retreat
Bottom middle: Church at the Park (Palomares Hills Park)
Bottom right: Mercy Ministry at Alameda Food Bank